The Best Way to Embrace Chaos: Transformational Life Coach Secrets
I’d like to start my day with a sense of accomplishment, no matter how small it may seem. Today, I’m finding my triumph in the early morning crossword puzzles. It’s interesting how these little victories can boost my confidence.
One day, a crossword clue reminded me of a famous movie quote: “I’m just a ______, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her.” Easy, right? The answer is “girl.” This morning, as I lay beside Kelly, a variation of that line popped into my head: “I’m just a girl, loving this girl, asking her to love me.” Kelly found it cute, but then came the inevitable question: “What movie is that from?” Yes, that’s the million-dollar question, what movie is it from?
I could visualize it – Julia Roberts and that British guy… oh, what’s his name? The movie where Julia Roberts is famous and they fall in love. The title was on the tip of my tongue, but I couldn’t quite grasp it. It’s frustrating when trying to remember a name leads you down a rabbit hole of associated people and films. Sometimes, when I’m struggling to recall titles or authors, I feel like I’ve forgotten how to talk. “Remember that amazing movie with… oh, shoot… What’s her name… the blonde… and she stars with the guy… you know… the dark-haired dude… and it takes place in… crap… that place out in the desert.” Yep, that was me this morning. It was driving me crazy, so I resorted to the ultimate solution: Google. “Notting Hill!” Ah, yes, that’s what I was thinking of, and Hugh Grant, of course! It all came rushing back to me. Yes! Yes! Yes! I felt like I’d just won a gold medal. I may not have remembered the title exactly, but I knew it.
This morning feels like a win. It’s now 6:22am, and I’m already writing. I tackled the morning crossword, and I owe my early start to Kelly. We both woke up at 4:22am, I know, it’s random. I was wide awake, probably because I fell asleep at 8:08pm. I’m in this cycle of going to bed early and getting up early. Soon, I’ll be going to bed at 5pm and waking up at 1am. While it makes planning any evening events a challenge, I generally love waking up early.
Escaping the Screen Scroll
Kelly inspired me this morning. By not bringing her phone upstairs, she changed the morning dynamic completely. Instead of scrolling on Facebook or making impulsive purchases online, we both got up and started the day.
With green juice and tea in hand, I headed for my office. I journaled and was completely inspired by what came out. Then, I read a chapter in my latest imposter syndrome book and meditated for 12 minutes on self-love. All before 6am. Fan…freaking…tastic!
Writing Goals and Early Morning Epiphanies
My goal is to write every day before our wedding on November 11. I’ve already missed two days, but I’ll catch up with a few double sessions. Yesterday, it was 7pm before I made my way to the page, so hitting it at 6am felt like such an accomplishment. As I stared at my bookshelf, I realized I was searching for chaos. This is a familiar pattern for me – seeking out chaos and then making order from it.
However, this morning, a major revelation struck me. I am a peacemaker. This is my superpower: bringing peace from chaos. This realization shed light on past choices, especially in relationships. I was attracted to chaos and wanted to turn it into peace. My last husband embodied chaos, and I couldn’t change it, no matter how hard I tried. I couldn’t bring peace, which left me feeling broken and defeated.
This newfound perspective changes everything. What if I could fall in love with chaos? It makes me uncomfortable just thinking about it, which means I’m onto something. What if I let it be messy? What if I just witnessed the chaos? What would that change? The ultimate peace isn’t being in a peaceful environment, but finding peace within chaos. It’s about being peace, creating peace inside of me, rather than demanding it in my environment. This is the game-changer.
Inner Chaos: Finding Peace Within
The essence of peace isn’t isolated in a monk in a cave meditating, hidden from the world. It’s about finding that same level of peace in the midst of life’s chaos – the blender grinding, the washing machine churning, the dog hair, the random socks on the floor, and yes, even a few dishes in the sink. True peace lies within chaos. This revelation resonates with the spiritual psychology principle: outer experience reflects inner reality.
It’s all coming into focus. The world isn’t chaos; I am. My inner world has been chaotic, and I’ve been trying to organize everything and everyone to bring peace to myself. But I’ll never get there that way. It starts within. As I reflect on this spiritual psychology principle, I realize that if there’s something wrong in the world, it’s probably originating from within me.
